A Cherokee Legend

“Grandfather Tells” also known as ” The Wolves Within”

An old Grandfather said to his grandson, who came to him with anger at a friend who had done him an injustice, “Let me tell you a story.

I too, at times, have felt a great hate for those that have taken so much, with no sorrow for what they do.

But hate wears you down, and does not hurt your enemy. It is like taking poison and wishing your enemy would die. I have struggled with these feelings many times.” He continued, “It is as if there are two wolves inside me.

One is good and does no harm. He lives in harmony with all around him, and does not take offense when no offense was intended. He will only fight when it is right to do so, and in the right way.


angry wolf

But the other wolf, ah! He is full of anger. The littlest thing will set him into a fit of temper. He fights everyone, all the time, for no reason. He cannot think because his anger and hate are so great. It is helpless anger, for his anger will change nothing.

Sometimes, it is hard to live with these two wolves inside me, for both of them try to dominate my spirit.”

The boy looked intently into his Grandfather’s eyes and asked, “Which one wins, Grandfather?”

The Grandfather smiled and quietly said, “The one I feed.”

Know your thoughts

Know them well

Which wolf will you feed today

Harm no one

Live in harmony within your own being and then extend that out into the world.

We can, each and everyone of us, Be the peace we seek*

love and light


5 Comments to “A Cherokee Legend”

  1. By Gretchen, September 13, 2011 @ 10:04 am

    Thank you for this, Astara.

    Your post is very timely for me, Astara. I am currently dealing with a very frustrating situation where a person continually tells lies, half truths, omits information, refuses to answer questions… but continues to deny that they are doing this and plays a game of saying that they are very honest and that I am mistaken. I do know the truth and the facts. The situation effects not only me but my children and my relationship with them and has also involved lawyers and therapists for 4 years, with no improvement. I have compassion for the other person’s own fears and what seems to be a mental disorder, but compassion has not created better outcomes.

    So while I understand the uselessness of letting the frustration turn to anger, what emotion and action are useful and appropriate to try to facilitate change and expressions of truth, honesty and respect that I’m not currently getting? How do I best maintain my strength, patience, integrity and positive attitude in light of the circumstances?

    Thanks for your time!

  2. By Lisa, September 13, 2011 @ 12:48 pm

    Your story is one I can relate to and perhaps everyone has had to deal with such a person once or more in life. I’m sure you have heard before, ‘Some people are here to be a lesson/reminder to others of how NOT to be.’ I have heard this in a joking way before and thought it funny, but now I subscribe to the belief that this may very well be true. Perhaps others HAVE come to this life with these behaviors indeed to teach us how not to be. Even if the true cause is a physical/mental disorder, tumor, etc. The cause and effect is the same. Would like to know what Astara thinks about this as well.
    These people on their best day are challenging for us to keep our cool, on their worst day can bring us into their circle and damage our heart and mind causing us to backlash so that WE end up looking like a player in their games.
    It IS a constant struggle when you cannot get away from that person as it sounds like you cannot. To NOT react is the best defense. That is what they want. That is their game. It confuses them to not get a reaction and you can take some solace in that when it occurs. And if there is any way you can document the exchanges between you, even if it is just a diary, may be helpful.
    Often in time these people are removed from our lives and are on to their next ‘teachable’ placement in life! If this is not a possibility I feel you must find concrete skills to lessen the impact on you and your children as stated above.
    Best of luck to you.

  3. By Astara Summers, September 13, 2011 @ 1:59 pm

    Dear Gretchen,
    Situations such as this: long lasting, involving children, therapy and lawyers become very confusing.

    There will be days when you will be angry, that is understandable. You must allow yourself to express your emotions in a safe way and in a safe place. That would mean you do not direct it at anyone and you do not swallow them finding them useless. It is a fire that will come to burn you or find an inappropriate way out. In other words you could find yourself triggered into anger that is out of balance in its expression and inappropriate in its placement.

    As you release your anger, command your thoughts to a higher and more loving vibration~ call in the light. In your frustration and sadness~ call in the light. What you are asking for is the ability to see more, become more aware and embody more love. Ask Source to help guide you. Keep moving your energy until there comes a still point, a pause and at such a time you simply breath in more light and more love for you. You are in need of the love and light first so your vessel will be filled to overflowing. Drink plenty of water when working with your energy it helps move the toxins more effectively.It is important to understand that as we move toward all the right choices that we are internally honest with ourselves and that includes our emotions.

    As you continue to balance your energy, releasing what needs to be released, your children will FEEL the love and balance that you are. Children are very good at feeling undercurrents of energy ( undercurrents are when someone says one thing but their energy speaks a different tune) but may not understand what they are feeling. If you are honest with your emotions and aligned with the intent to choose healthy thoughts, make healthy choices it will become more and more difficult for the “wounded one” to draw you into the energetic spin of his dis-ease. It will become more and more clear to the children where they want to be and who they want to be with. Love is the answer no matter the question, so please love yourself enough to feel what needs to be felt.

    Lisa has given you words of wisdom. Thank-you Lisa 🙂 here are some of them: To NOT react is the best defense. That is what they want.

    It is not only what they want it is what they need. They feed off of this energy. This is another reason it is so important that you are not holding, repressing your energy. You could do some breath work before the next encounter, nurture yourself with time and positive thought forms. Write in a journal before and after. This is a place to begin creating shifts in the energy patterns being played out.

    This will end. Believe it and trust it. Chaos is not constant. I hope this is helpful. Please feel free to e-mail me if you are inspired to do so.:)

    in peace and love

  4. By Jenna, October 19, 2012 @ 7:06 pm

    Thank you for your post. I have been feeling a lot of anger and hatred towards humanity lately. Tired of always taking the high road and being nice to people when they hurt me. I do not know what to do with this energy and there is the concern that I am creating more anger. I notice I judge people a lot. I think this is because I am a sensitive soul and get hurt easily. I notice how people I help hurt me, these are coaching clients but then I don’t hear from them again or they don’t reply to my emails. This gets me in a circle of frustration, anger, hate, judgement and no desire to help anymore. This is all coming to the surface. What am I to do about all of this? Thank you.

    • By Astara Summers, November 2, 2012 @ 12:01 pm

      Dear Jenna,
      You are not alone in how you feel. There is a solution. please contact me and I will happily share some techniques with you so you can move your energy appropriately and stop the cycle of hurt and anger. Love Astara

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